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22128758 2010 年 09 月 27 日 15:59 Reading (loading. ..) Comments (0) Category: Personal Diary
Q: I see your Notes also would like to ask the question about her mother, my mother is not bad, but she has only three topics: What is 5 cents cheaper, family and others speak ill of others,
timberland kids, And we will continue to say a few hours. I would like to understand her, but she let me crash at objectively, I do not even because of her two-day stop Sapo and the HR 120-128 for 20 hours, go to the hospital we go to play a needle and stability, how to do? I would like to understand, but my body does not allow, tried all kinds of communication, all invalid.
rain under the eaves of the reply:
I deliberately searched for the elderly on the network why nag: nag elderly may be caused by physical or mental decline, and should understand them as much as possible, do not use blunt language to try to stop, so as not to hurt my parents hearts and cause them emotional confrontation. Nagging for three main reasons:
1. sometimes too self-confident, with a total view of the adult child as a child, or because of a strong desire to maintain their dignity, repeatedly stressed the idea of their own, or because of personality changes, like blame others, this is their mental signs of aging begin.
2. stubbornly old-fashioned as well yesterdays They are generally a matter of past memory decline more slowly, so they like to say that happened in the past, like that through his past, a young man's ability to show off, and won the honors.
3. physically, especially in brain tissue caused by the recession. They first thing is the memory of recent loss, the performance of the
for the characteristics of your nagging mother, I have the following suggestions:
1. if not shared, as far as possible to live apart, each have their own space, mutual non-interference, there was no mutual dislike to see each other the situation say things, to reduce conflict, reduce friction, but also can reduce some caused by nagging topic.
2. If you have to live with your husband and his mother suggested to increase the outside interests, not limited to nest at home, you can stroll the park, play equipment, health fitness, and more children and older sister They walk in the sun. Friends fewer people, have something to say nowhere, only a few people to talk and at home, friends and fewer people, fewer content topics, easy to monotonous, boring.
3. to the elderly to find a
4. to maintain an appropriate distance. Neither is particularly close, opened the Round Table can be any brighter after her five years of talk, you will not be too distant for her, if she felt my heart has no place can be said, that she would simmer in my heart too much, even more miserable.
5. divert attention. Find yourself a legitimate reason, such as to permit examination session, to learn English, speaking a day after listening to the important part of her mother, the elderly have to repeat the old topic, as far as possible and do not be surprised to see her mother said: I want to study what What,
timberland boots, now see the book. Do you have important decisions to see the elderly, but also embarrassed to disturb.
6. 心静自然凉. Nagging is,
mens timberland boots, you will feel tired, the more noise that whole body heat, where nowhere comfortable. Learning a ear to listen, take one ear, so as in Look, over there people wander Void, did not even enter into my mind. Natural to filter out some of the words heard the more agitated.
comes back to this topic, I could not help asking my husband: I nag it? He said: Not it. Oh, do not want to become a babbler, and hope to avoid as much as possible every blog friends who become nagging.
nagging What kind of person would it?
1. a young man received stimulation, those who hurt, people more sensitive nerve. Example, there is always a class of her mouth: Such people are relatively young Biequ, has been keeping everything inside, emotions have not been released, this life, to also remember those who are clearly unfair things. Everyone, it will inevitably encounter things go wrong, we must promptly release, whether you are crying out to sing it or write it, should vent out, with the fastest time to forget about this thing. Do not let it be your heart.
2. no friend to anyone skeptical, and who do not believe that people who do not contact the outside world. This group of people confined to her husband,
timberland boots sale, children, all of the topics only child her husband said, and those over and over again without refreshing the topic allows the husband wants children stuffed with cotton wool ears, wants to have far more to hide far, want to get away.
3. turn iron into steel type. This class is generally out of her husband to exercise, they would repeatedly say to her husband: the door for your slippers, immediately wash your hands, socks, do not throw on the ground, not hidden under the pillow, you help me wash the dishes after dinner,
womens timberland boots, do not push jobs Han job quit, you do not always get drunk, do not gamble .... as basic to her husband when her words are heeded, she was unwilling, so long to develop a large set of priorities is not found, could not find to the theme, the central idea of the nagging. If you're a man, in order to nag your wife does not get old you can not survive, not to die, her spade, you have to act now, do not let the second sentence, she said.
4. too much concern, fear, unwilling to let go of people. Every mother seems to worry about their children: a mother because the child blames him for nagging, but feel sad. Yesterday, seems to haunt you or make you 30 times and repeatedly do not know tired of crying wolf baby milk, in your eyes today are still a child, but has expressed concern about when you frown and unsparing that you garrulous At this time you have to think, were you too many times repeatedly said it? If you are not told, the child can understand it? Can do you own? If the child has to say you nag, you should really change the approach to change, once the kids like your nagging,
timberland outlet, you speak very reasonable, he also would not make sense as the nagging.
5. not to accept new things. Do not accept new things, lack of interest on the new things people love monotonous, less excitement in life, more vulnerable to nagging. Therefore, make sure some of his more widely-loving, even if you are not interested in what people around are interested in, you may also wish to research studies, why they like it? To accept new things, to exercise your brain, slow down your aging.
In short, you have a nagging tendency to it? If so, then change to change it.
film
day my son I am growing old when you see the body gradually
have patience and not try to understand me if I
dirty when eating or even have a little patience does not wear clothes
you remember how much time I have spent teaching you these things?
When I repeat the same thing
please do not interrupt me, listen to me
you were a child I had to read over and over again the same story,
until you to sleep when I do not want to take a bath
Do not shame me nor scold me
you remember when I had a reason, how in order that you take a bath
When you see a new technology I No Do not know Give me some time I have laughed at me
how many things you taught how to properly eat ah
good to wear, how to face your life
amnesia if the conversation I suddenly do not know what to say to me some time to think about
if I can not do for me not to stress the important
but surely not to speak with you
When my tired legs do not give me your hand
like I did when you gave your first steps
when someday I tell you I do not want to live a total
do not get angry One day you will understand
know me do not become a sick old man
one day you will find that even my mistakes
I always do my best to give you the best
When I am close to you Do not feel sad or angry you must be next to me complain
as was I when you started living like
help me help me understand my hand with love and patience to help me finish the life
I will smile, I always love to return you to
I love you my baby
we will grow old, treat ourselves, into our lives to treat people, whether it is your parents, or your other half of the parents. If they are nagging and learn to be magnanimous, tolerant, they also do not want to grow old, they do not want to nag.
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