Growth of fable

(A) the growth of fable: the growth of apple trees will not do a

an apple, and eventually the result.
premier year, which bring an end to ... with 10 apples, 9 were taken away, that she was one. In reaction, angry apple trees, so from the off, in corner, refused to grow. The afterward year, which bring an end to ... with five apples, four were taken away, they get one.
However, it can do: continue to grow. For example, the second year, which end up with 100 fruit were taken away 90, that she was 10.
likely, it was taken away 99, that she was one. But it does not matter, it can continue to grow, the fruit of the third year-end 1000 ... ...
In fact, how much fruit is not the most important. The most important is that apple trees grow! So apple trees grow into towering trees, those who had hindered its growth will be feeble enough to ignore the power. Really, do not worry so many about fruit growing is the most important.

psychological Comments] [you are not a meridian of the work has since broken family?
beginning work, you gifted, high-spirited, believing that But the reality soon kick you a few Sap, perhaps, you make a big contribution for the element that no one seriously; may only get attention but not the spoken benefits; perhaps ... ... In short, you feel like the apple tree , bear the fruit of their behalf only a small portion, and falls far short of your expectations.
So you furious, you upset, you grumble ... ... In the end, if you determine not to make their own made to mate their income. After the elapse few years, you have a self-examination and base that immediately you have no work, just a enthusiasm and artist.
But the core is that you have stopped growing.
this anecdote, around us everywhere.
reason for such mistakes, because we forget that life is a excursion, as a whole, we feel that they have grown too,Nike Shox TL1, and now is the time of the fruit. We too care about the pros and cons of the moment, and forget the growth is the most important.
Fortunately, this is not a Jin Yong novel of cutting off the meridians. We are ready to give up doing so, the road continues to grow.
Remember: If you are a working household, having not understand management, management or mismanagement of savage bosses or corporate civilization, then, to remind ourselves about, do not because of anger and full of indignation and mowing off the meridians. No stuff what, must do an ever growing apple trees, because you will never grow important than how much money every month.

(b) the motives of the fable: the child in whom a team of children playing

frolic in front of an old, sounds and groaning. Over the past few days, the elderly unbearable.
So he came out to 25 cents for each child, said to them: cheerful day is still coming, as always frolic. Old people bring ... to an end and give each child 15 cents. He unraveled that he had no income, only less to some. It also can be 15 cents, children are still happily away.
third day, the elderly only 5 cents for each child.
kid with rage,

psychological Comments] [you whom the .
were two types of motivation: internal motivation and external motivation. According to the internal motivation to act, we are masters of their own. If we are pedaled by external motivation, we will be swayed by external factors, become its slaves.
In this fable, the old man of the measurement is uncomplicated, he will be the children's interior motivation ingredients, so it manipulated the children's action. Fables of the aged, a lot like your boss, boss? And cents, like not like your wages, dividends and other kinds of external rewards?
such as the external evaluation as a reference border, our sentiments can easily fluctuate. Because of external factors further our control, it is easy to deviate from our internal expectations, so we are not satisfied, we grumble. Dissatisfaction and grumbles and other negative sentiments so that our pain, in order to dwindle the pain, we had to dwindle the internal expectations, the most prevalent means is to reduce the work effort.
the formation of causative because the outer appraisal system, the maximum important reason is namely parents like to control him. Parents too choose to use verbal rewards and punishments, material rewards and disciplines and additional control babies, rather than apt bypass the child's own motivation. Over period, the children have forgotten their incipient motivations, cares approximately what are the outer evaluation. School, he forgot to study the aboriginal motivation --- curiosity and the joy of learning; work, work that he has forgotten the original motivation --- the joy of growth, the appraisal of superiors and earnings fluctuations into his work largest source of happiness and ache.
remember: external evaluation of the system is often a family history, but you can damage it, after hours cultivating their own internal evaluation system, to study and work into a

(c) the intending of the fable: the chip of periodical folded 51 times

Imagine your hands are a big ample white. Now, your mission is to fold it 51 times. So, how tall it is?
a refrigerator? Floor? Or a high building so high? No, too unfamiliar, the thickness more than the distance among Earth and the Sun.

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to now, I get asked this a dozen people a fable, only two people said that this may be less than the elevation of an imaginary, meantime others meditation the maximum height is a skyscraper so high.
folded 51 times the height of such a terrorist, but if not the 51 white paper stacked together?
This contrast was ghastly to many people. Because there is no direction, lack of planning in life, like the 51 white simple stacked together. Doing this today, morrow doing that, every time there is no link between efforts. As a result, even now each work is done very well, they have your whole life is naught but a simple superposition.
course, life is more complicated than this fable. Some people, life finds a simple direction and firmly to do so, they finally reached somebody else's life unattainable height. For example, a friend of my direction in life is English, he spent more than a decade efforts, the quantity of memories of the word only reached ten million and more, at this point to reach the average person can not match the height.
some human, their intention in life is also very remove, for instance, start a corporation boss,Nike Shox R2, so they need a lot of capabilities --- skills, treatment skills, communication skills, decision-making skills, and so on. They may try doing this in the starting, but try doing that, none of them are especially skilled, but in the end, to open the enterprise boss in this instruction will be ahead these seemingly scattered to the integration effort together, which is a folding of intricate life, rather than a simple superposition.
Remember: the power of visible more useful than the invisible compel.
Now, the popular place to find the answer from the unseen, such as potential development, such as the success of science, that our lives depend on a digit of marvels to be saved. However,Nike Shox R5, in my opinion, Dongguan Heng Yuan Counseling Center counselor Maozheng Jiang said more correctly, avoid the fables: cat escape the shadow of the cheats

, Tom and Toby found wherever there is sunlight, they will see that they are mad for their own shadow.
However, Tom and Toby finally have found their own solution. Tom is always close their eyes. Toby is a way to always stay in the shadows of other asset.

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mental note of this fable, a little mental problem is how to become more psychological problems.
can say that all psychological problems are narrated to the distortion of the facts. What facts? We effectively those anguish negative events.
Because painful experience, we do not want to face the negative events. However, once occurred, such negative events destined to be with us for life, we can do up to inhibit them but to go into the subconscious, which is the so-called forgotten.
However, their subconscious will still continue to play a character. And even now we forget them even more powerful for the fact that, the pain associated with these facts will still attack us, let us somehow sad, and can not be suppressed. This pain Let us beyond efforts to escape.
evolution to the end, the usual solution is to these two: both we like the same feline Tom, entirely twisting their own experience of life in all the important negative facts are ignored; either, we like feline care than the same, simply combine their pain, their own everything were very bad, since everything is so wrong, sad that their most original accident is not so painful.
Baiyun mental hospital adviser, said Li Ling, 99% of pill users had a bitter experience. The reason they drugs, in mandate to make their run the pain. It's like hide in the shadows, the painful fact is that a demon, the devil in array to avoid this, simply to sell itself to a greater devil.
many drunkard adults, they have had an alcoholic and abusive father, and put the father's numerous torture. To forget the pain, they learn the same way. In appending to these apparent
the bad way, we peoples have invented a great many all sorts of ways to escape suffering, Freud called these methods of psychological ward mechanisms. Too painful, these ward mechanisms is needful, but aggravate, if the deformation of the facts of psychological ward machinery is so intense, it will bring more psychological problems, such as obsessive-compulsive disorder, social solicitude disorder, multiple personality, or even schizophrenia.
really only one way to reach health --- face the pain. Face the pain of people suffering from a number of abrupt results got, they will eventually become the life of the celebration of wealth.
Remember: shadow and light, are life's asset.
one of the most important psychological law, no matter how painful, you are not escape. You can only go brave face it, resolve it, beyond it, and it approached a final settlement. If you own a temporary lack of power, you can detect help, ascertain friends and relatives to help, or seek professional help, you believe the person attach you to the face of these painful things.
American psychologist, Rogers was the most solitary person, but when he resolved to face this fact and after he became a true main of interpersonal relationships; U.S. psychologist Frank has a brutal and alcoholic stepfather and a bad mom, but when he challenges the fact and afterward from the heart to forgive his parents, he became an expert in this zone manipulation; Japanese psychologists Morita is Mazen is a serious neurological muddle, but along daring the facts and finally invented Morita treatment ... they lives in the most painful fact finally become their most important things. You can do the same.

(e) deed legend --- crabs, owls and bats

crabs, owls and bats to go to cram school damage. Few years later, they all graduated and received his PhD. However, the crab is still rampant, night owls are still slumbering in the daytime activities,Nike Shox R3, bat still hung upside down.

psychological Comments] [It is even prominent main
a fable, it's averaging is simple: action important than knowledge.
accustomed in mental health, this fable is also thought-provoking.
cried mysterious knowledge of psychology. However, more even knowledge of psychology help a person does not automatically become more healthy. In fact, I know some people who studied psychology for many years, they learn psychology, one of the purposes is to rule themselves, but knowledgeable after so many years, their problem remains.
reason why this happens, a very important reason is that they do not individually, at present only the knowledge of knowledge, knowledge is not into their own life experience.
one of my friends like psychology, psychology has been more than those that are not acute, not appropriate for educate psychology. But the fact that this speculation is not correct. He is not perceptive enough, but he has a very big advantage: to know a good knowledge instantly in their own lives to do it. As a result, those far knowledge becomes a real life experience, he does not
If say, the quality of high sensitivity is a talent, then go-anywhere quality talent is more important.
This fable can also derive another meaning: Do not anticipate too secret wizardry of psychotherapy. The most important power is always in your own body, the mysteries of knowledge, the latent development of recondite, dazzling success of science, etc., are far minor to the power of your own body has been important. We used to go outside to find the responses to others where to find the power, the results have forgotten the power in themselves.
Remember: other people's knowledge can not automatically retention you.
If the punch line of some Lianzhu touched you, if some text or a new creed inspired you. So, these people's words and experience are just the beginning, more importantly, you think you really use a good knowledge of your own life to go. Jewish philosopher Martin Buber
these words, I have always thought the most important:
you have to start. If you do not go in depth with a affirmative love life, if you do not go their own way to reveal the signification of life for themselves, then for you, life will remain meaningless.

(VI) to give up the fable:

bees and flowers wilted roses, the bees are still hard to suck, because it previously had from a flower in the suck sweet takes. But now in this little flower, the bees suck the venom.
bees know this, because the venom painful, the taste is a huge feud with the previous. Thus, bees rage, whatsoever, exhale aboard it the whole globe saw up to complain about, and why the savor changed? !
Finally 1 daytime, do not understand why, bee vibrating its wings, flying a mini higher. At this time, it found,Nike Shox Monster, withered roses nigh everywhere is the flowers.

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This is about the love fable, a youth language educator is the true emotion.
some time, her disappointment in love, quite painful, I all ambitioned to talk about, I wish I can give her some wisdom of psychology aid. We have some time, merely nearly 2 months later, the total time they can not happen to get together.
final time about her, she said: Pain of lost love is still perturbing her, let her trance, can not enjoy the charm of Jiuzhaigou. Inadvertently, she placarded a little bee on flower juice is. In that instant, her mind lightning camel appeared saying: only foolish, her words in the bee, of course refers to herself. This moment, she had to give up the truth out of sagacity. Previously, she wanted me to help her out, but in fact the long wings in her own body, she can fly to fly.
not easy to give up, give up, primarily in love is pain. Because love is young, when our copy of the parent-child relationship. Young children, no matter from which side, are inseparable from Mom and Dad. If a complete negation of his father and mother, and that method death for him, this is the ultimate impair and alarm. We have experienced know next to nothing of to be father and mother no pain and fear, so when love --- of copies of the parent-child relationship once repeatedly we experience the pain and fear, our emotions can easily become very bad.
However, compared to love and parent-child relationship, there is a huge difference: a child, we can not, all parents have the terminal say; but now, we grow up, we have the power to choose their own destiny. It can be said, childhood, we have no wings small bees, but now we have a pair of mighty wings.
However, when caught up in adore, we will return to infancy, we tin forget a pair of flying wings. And so we ourselves realize that, the love is not longer automatically duplicate parent-child relationship, we love to obtain free, have to give up power.
Remember: Love is two things, two completely equal, independent individuality of the person to do. You can work, but not that you worked hard on there will be results, because another person, you are not around.
So, no matter how much you care about a love, if another person decided to quit you, please esteem his alternative.
And also remember, you are no longer childhood, can only let the pain of torture. You have adults, you have a pair of lusty wings, you can fly out of a relationship has become poison.

(g) close fable: the distinctive Rose

Little Prince has a small planet,Nike Shox Menn, the planet of sudden blossom of a blooming rose. Previously, on this planet merely a few unknown flowers, the little prince had never looked such pretty flowers, he fell in love with the rose, cautiously nurtured her.
that for some time, he thought, this is a unattached flower on world, only he is the only planet, other areas do not exist.
However, he came to Earth and found that there is a garden just the same as 5000 of this flower. At this time, he knows that he only have an mediocre flower.
the beginning, this finding, let the little prince was very sad. But in the end, the little prince to understand, even whereas the world has innumerable roses, but his planet tis is still unique because tis roses, he poured over, took off her hood cover, with the screen protection over , in addition to her body of caterpillars, but also hear to the Yuan Yi and her claim to listen to her muffle ... ... In short, he tame her, and she tamed him, she is his unique roses.


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This is a psychological masterpiece, France
face of 5000 roses, the little prince said: But now we blank the increasingly fashionable We are impatient to have
. As if, for each has been a rose, the value of their own lives Duoliaoyifen. Internet old, with several ten lover, is no longer too infrequent thing. But I know who these theatrical, no one is empty. They do not enjoy the relationship, they just enjoy the conquest.
But once owned, they will fast lose amuse in this intimate relationship. the stronger the desire to win, the faster the wastage. acceptable.
However, the relationship between the United States, they are almost the class of commitment and the tame class. When two people are surely going into, certainly being tamed, the relationship will convert a life nutrition, so that a person's life becomes more filling and more beautiful.
However, no matter how intimate. The Little Prince is still Prince, Rose is still the roses, they are still two individuals. Rose not to voyage if the little prince, little prince or non-travel carry around the roses, they have to mallet together, the relationship is no longer enjoy, but will become a burden.
Remember: both a close and mutually independent relationship, the relationship is better than one thousand common. This relationship will bring us a sense of isolation from the hopeless rescue, the most important in our lives is a salvation.
If you never experienced, you can not know the relationship of the United States.