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Ignoring does not show approval of anything. It shows you don't care. Caring is very important to Spike. He has to know that his rotten behavior matters to you; that's what keeps the behavior going. If you remove any trace that you care, it won't continue. You have more authority over Spike's swearing that you can possibly know at this minute. You think that because Spike cusses at you that he hates you, rejects and you, holds you in contempt. At one level he does. At another, he wants you to accept the real him, which is deep down, hidden but still alive after he displays a certain amount of resentment, of course. You can't reach the real Spike by reacting to the unreal Spike. You want the real? Ignore the unreal. When the real emerges, as it will, then you can react.
Swearing is so naughty that it can't be depicted in most media. It you want to depict swearing, you draw a bubble over someone's head and fill it full of nonsense symbols like lightning bolts, exclamation marks and pound signs. This is for the protection of our children. We aim to keep our children as far from the world for as long as possible. Even naughty children aren't supposed to swear; they are supposed to be innocently naughty. Of course, there are exceptions: some kids do, in fact, cuss. Take ten year old Spike, for example. Spike can hardly produce a sentence without a curse in it somewhere. It gets him what he wants: attention
Swearing in public sets the normal kid apart from the abnormal kid. The abnormal kid does not fit in so he emphasizes how poorly he fits in by trying to show that he doesn't care.. He violates pubic decorum rules and dares anyone to do anything about it. What most people do is give the kid a wide berth. This reinforces the kid's sense of special and unique though not in a positive way. On the one hand, he is being rejected but on the other, he is responsible for his own rejection. The latter is a nicety which is lost on the kid.
So what does a parent do? Absolutely nothing. Literally. There should be no acknowledgment on any level that Spike's cursing has any impact on you. You may say, " Well, doesn't this show that I approve?"
A swearing kid is a kid who does not fear punishment, wants to be seen as a rebel and who wants to feel that he is actually bigger than his shoe size suggests. Generally, adults are less likely to be punished for cursing than children, especially when their oaths become ######ual and or when swearing becomes intentionally abusive which can be the same thing. A kid who can get away without punishment in one tough dude. Punishment isn't one of Spikes concerns. Nobody punishes him for anything. They can't. He doesn't accept it. And he is likely to give it right back with both barrels if they try.
The kid is in control of the process. The control may seen perverse. Doesn't matter. This is how abnormal kids keep what sense of pride in themselves that they can. It isn't a pride that gets them what we think they need. But it does get them something: respect through fear. Such a kid is potentially dangerous. Adults around the kid seem apprehensive. They are uncertain how he will react. The kid picks up on the apprehensiveness which just reinforces his strategy. It is as though he says
Cartier Sunglasses Clearance Swing Building & Scoring Don't Mix - It's the O, 'if I can't be liked, I will be feared.' Put two or three of these kids together, and you have a gang. Now instead of merely being apprehensive, adults are genuinely afraid. This is big in an abnormal kid's life. Much of it stems from a kid willingness to be seen as atypical through swearing. Take out the swearing, and the sense of danger will collapse. Swearing is the glue holding the various parts of the atypical kid's need for opposition together.
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In our time, swearing
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###### is also only for adults. Neither ###### nor swearing is the province of normal children. The key is normal. So it shocks when cursing , not to mention ######ualized cursing, comes out of a kid's mouth. We don't expect it. We don't see adults as innocent, so we more or less expect it from them, although there is another exception: females, both children and adults, are viewed as more innocent than men so cursing is not acceptable from them either. A female must deliver her cursing in hushed tones with intimate friends only. Unless some female wishes to be seen as low class she refrains using from the more powerful words. This is, of course, exactly why the Spikes of this world engage in it. It makes them feel big, and powerful and dangerous. Swearing will get them noticed. Spike uses swearing to show he is different, rebellious and controlling. Spike doesn't care what class you put him in, though the more dangerous the better.